Comments on: National cleavage day: no problem http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/ The blog for small busted women Wed, 02 May 2012 18:56:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Lisa Maughan http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-41023 Lisa Maughan Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:24:18 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-41023 Hi Caroline Just to say that you have the Jerry Balconett bra available from us at Perfectly Petite Lingerie at £24.00 - whilst we have the sale on your readers can buy this for only £19.00. Kind regards Hi Caroline

Just to say that you have the Jerry Balconett bra available from us at Perfectly Petite Lingerie at £24.00 – whilst we have the sale on your readers can buy this for only £19.00.

Kind regards

]]> By: Kristin http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-23032 Kristin Fri, 08 Apr 2011 17:31:27 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-23032 I really enjoyed reading this thread. I agree that there is so much pressure in our society to look a certain way and the effect that this can have on a woman's self-esteem can be damaging. This blog encourages smaller busted women to feel great about their bodies without feeling the need to change in any way, which is fantastic. I do agree that part of the allure of lingerie is that it doesn't have to be simply practical, because there is a playful side to it as Kate said. The many options out there, even for smaller busted women, allow us to try different styles depending upon our mood, the day, the event, etc. Opting one day for a cleavage-enhancing bra does not mean we're trying to conform to a certain ideal, but rather that we are enjoying the freedom of exploring the many different options available to us now as small-busted women. Kate, you had asked where you can find such styles in the U.S. and I'd like to provide a source. I am the owner of LoveStruck Lingerie, available on the web at http://www.lovestrucklingerie.com. Our store offers lingerie for petite busted women with bra cup sizes AA-B and clothing sizes XS-M. We have everything from wireless, lightly padded and unpadded bralettes to cleavage-enhancing bras, etc. from brands such as Itty Bitty Bra, The Little Bra Company, Panache, Biatta and more. I hope this helps! I really enjoyed reading this thread. I agree that there is so much pressure in our society to look a certain way and the effect that this can have on a woman’s self-esteem can be damaging. This blog encourages smaller busted women to feel great about their bodies without feeling the need to change in any way, which is fantastic.

I do agree that part of the allure of lingerie is that it doesn’t have to be simply practical, because there is a playful side to it as Kate said. The many options out there, even for smaller busted women, allow us to try different styles depending upon our mood, the day, the event, etc. Opting one day for a cleavage-enhancing bra does not mean we’re trying to conform to a certain ideal, but rather that we are enjoying the freedom of exploring the many different options available to us now as small-busted women.

Kate, you had asked where you can find such styles in the U.S. and I’d like to provide a source. I am the owner of LoveStruck Lingerie, available on the web at http://www.lovestrucklingerie.com. Our store offers lingerie for petite busted women with bra cup sizes AA-B and clothing sizes XS-M. We have everything from wireless, lightly padded and unpadded bralettes to cleavage-enhancing bras, etc. from brands such as Itty Bitty Bra, The Little Bra Company, Panache, Biatta and more. I hope this helps!

]]> By: Kate http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22758 Kate Thu, 07 Apr 2011 00:56:14 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22758 Catherine, where can I get bras like the ones shown in your bloghere in the the U.S.? In what retailers? Like for an A34 , for instance. Please reply back, thank you. Catherine, where can I get bras like the ones shown in your bloghere in the the U.S.? In what retailers? Like for an A34 , for instance. Please reply back, thank you.

]]> By: Kate http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22655 Kate Wed, 06 Apr 2011 04:23:05 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22655 Where can I get bras like those here in the U.S.? Where can I get bras like those here in the U.S.?

]]> By: Catherine http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22313 Catherine Sun, 03 Apr 2011 08:14:01 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22313 I think the idea of National Cleavage Day is that you can participate if you want, ignore if you don't. My post was just aimed at those who might fancy dabbling with creating a fuller bustline. In the context of the SBBH blog as a whole, this is one choice among many other "looks" I have explored. There are plenty of references to my own reaction to lingerie manufacturers assuming that AA-cup women would automatically want a "boost" -- I have been quite vocal about how ridiculous and shortsighted I think that preconception is (so we're agreed on that). But, while push-up and padded bras aren't necessarily my choice, I understand why it might on occasion be fun to seek that effect... and I am delighted to help anyone who is interested to find the best lingerie available. I think your own acceptance of your body's natural shape is really admirable -- and I have always wanted my blog to help others come to the same acceptance. But I don't necessarily think it has to be all or nothing. I think there's something to be said for the "play" that lingerie offers -- and the versatility of the looks we small-busted ladies can create simply by opting for different lingerie. I see each blog post as an opportunity to present a different "story" -- in this instance, the story was National Cleavage Day, so it stands to reason that all the bras there were about creating a more curvy look... yes, by figure-altering, in a fun way (if that's what you enjoy personally). I hope this helps explain my position... and I hope you'll stay tuned for posts that are more in line with your viewpoint. I think the idea of National Cleavage Day is that you can participate if you want, ignore if you don’t. My post was just aimed at those who might fancy dabbling with creating a fuller bustline. In the context of the SBBH blog as a whole, this is one choice among many other “looks” I have explored. There are plenty of references to my own reaction to lingerie manufacturers assuming that AA-cup women would automatically want a “boost” — I have been quite vocal about how ridiculous and shortsighted I think that preconception is (so we’re agreed on that). But, while push-up and padded bras aren’t necessarily my choice, I understand why it might on occasion be fun to seek that effect… and I am delighted to help anyone who is interested to find the best lingerie available. I think your own acceptance of your body’s natural shape is really admirable — and I have always wanted my blog to help others come to the same acceptance. But I don’t necessarily think it has to be all or nothing. I think there’s something to be said for the “play” that lingerie offers — and the versatility of the looks we small-busted ladies can create simply by opting for different lingerie. I see each blog post as an opportunity to present a different “story” — in this instance, the story was National Cleavage Day, so it stands to reason that all the bras there were about creating a more curvy look… yes, by figure-altering, in a fun way (if that’s what you enjoy personally). I hope this helps explain my position… and I hope you’ll stay tuned for posts that are more in line with your viewpoint.

]]> By: Scarlett http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22159 Scarlett Fri, 01 Apr 2011 20:55:20 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22159 Catherine, I started reading your blog DUE to the positive message I felt was inherent in the posts. I don't have any criticism of your blog as a whole, and apologize if my comment came across that way. I did, however, feel this most recent post fell short of the very tone of acceptance which I had come to expect. Also, I appreciate that your willingness to publish my comment despite your feelings about it. I am certainly not attempting to dictate what others aught to find "feel good" in their own lingerie choices. Rather I am asking why is it that when it's declared 'National Cleavage Day' we should all leap to conform? I agree, everyone is permitted their own choice in personal attire. A response to a day devoted to something that, by definition, 'flat' women don't possess - with list of only products designed to ameliorate that condition, does not appear to promote choice-making. Since this is so far and away from all other posts I have read, I was quite surprised. Perhaps it isn't how you meant it to come across, but by generating a list consisting solely of 'cleavage boosting' and '2 cup sizes up' products, it does appear as though you are implying that one would not want to be without cleavage on cleavage day. Based on previous posts of yours, I was honestly expecting a lively mixture of small-size friendly products for those who wish to play the cleavage game, and some for those who don't choose to play the cleavage game. Again, I'm not posting in order to criticize your work, but I do think its worth examining why we, as human beings of any shape and size, feel compelled to adapt our physical being to some externally defined ideal. I would ask you to reflect on the possible responses to a day celebrating a physical feature in which one does not have in abundance. As I see it, the options revolve around variants of three main themes: rejection of self with no attempt to alter, rejection of self with attempt to alter, and acceptance of self. My opinion is that acceptance implies no desire to alter. Perhaps your way of viewing it is that there exists a state of acceptance of self in which one still desires to alter oneself? I don't believe that either is the 'right' or 'wrong' way to view the situation, and would be genuinely interested in hearing your thoughts. Catherine,

I started reading your blog DUE to the positive message I felt was inherent in the posts. I don’t have any criticism of your blog as a whole, and apologize if my comment came across that way. I did, however, feel this most recent post fell short of the very tone of acceptance which I had come to expect. Also, I appreciate that your willingness to publish my comment despite your feelings about it.

I am certainly not attempting to dictate what others aught to find “feel good” in their own lingerie choices. Rather I am asking why is it that when it’s declared ‘National Cleavage Day’ we should all leap to conform? I agree, everyone is permitted their own choice in personal attire. A response to a day devoted to something that, by definition, ‘flat’ women don’t possess – with list of only products designed to ameliorate that condition, does not appear to promote choice-making. Since this is so far and away from all other posts I have read, I was quite surprised. Perhaps it isn’t how you meant it to come across, but by generating a list consisting solely of ‘cleavage boosting’ and ’2 cup sizes up’ products, it does appear as though you are implying that one would not want to be without cleavage on cleavage day. Based on previous posts of yours, I was honestly expecting a lively mixture of small-size friendly products for those who wish to play the cleavage game, and some for those who don’t choose to play the cleavage game.

Again, I’m not posting in order to criticize your work, but I do think its worth examining why we, as human beings of any shape and size, feel compelled to adapt our physical being to some externally defined ideal. I would ask you to reflect on the possible responses to a day celebrating a physical feature in which one does not have in abundance. As I see it, the options revolve around variants of three main themes: rejection of self with no attempt to alter, rejection of self with attempt to alter, and acceptance of self. My opinion is that acceptance implies no desire to alter. Perhaps your way of viewing it is that there exists a state of acceptance of self in which one still desires to alter oneself? I don’t believe that either is the ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to view the situation, and would be genuinely interested in hearing your thoughts.

]]> By: Catherine http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22140 Catherine Fri, 01 Apr 2011 17:32:06 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22140 I must say it makes me mad to read this comment, which couldn't be further off the mark with regard to the motivation behind SBBH. Having spent best part of 18 months writing a blog that celebrates the beauty of small busts, I remain as true as ever to the principle that small-busted women enjoy the incredible advantage of being able to be chameleon-like: waif like in unstructured bras, cheekily bra-less, or with their gentle curves boosted by cleverly designed push-up bras. SBBH constantly drives home the joy of the choice that small-busted women have -- and helps them find the lingerie and clothes to meet their needs, whatever their preference. It is not for one individual to determine what is "feel good" lingerie for the small-busted group as a whole. We are individuals -- and some of us may find that going braless is the best fit for our comfort and style; others will enjoy creating a curvier shape with lingerie that fits that purpose. It is not insecurity that drives these choices just a confidence to do what makes us feel happy at any given time. I hope that my blog is diverse enough to give every small-busted woman a bit of what they fancy. The post about National Cleavage Day may not be for you, but you cannot claim it projects the idea "small busts are undesirable"... and you won't find that message anywhere on the SBBH blog. I must say it makes me mad to read this comment, which couldn’t be further off the mark with regard to the motivation behind SBBH. Having spent best part of 18 months writing a blog that celebrates the beauty of small busts, I remain as true as ever to the principle that small-busted women enjoy the incredible advantage of being able to be chameleon-like: waif like in unstructured bras, cheekily bra-less, or with their gentle curves boosted by cleverly designed push-up bras. SBBH constantly drives home the joy of the choice that small-busted women have — and helps them find the lingerie and clothes to meet their needs, whatever their preference. It is not for one individual to determine what is “feel good” lingerie for the small-busted group as a whole. We are individuals — and some of us may find that going braless is the best fit for our comfort and style; others will enjoy creating a curvier shape with lingerie that fits that purpose. It is not insecurity that drives these choices just a confidence to do what makes us feel happy at any given time. I hope that my blog is diverse enough to give every small-busted woman a bit of what they fancy. The post about National Cleavage Day may not be for you, but you cannot claim it projects the idea “small busts are undesirable”… and you won’t find that message anywhere on the SBBH blog.

]]> By: Scarlett http://smallbustbigheart.com/2011/03/national-cleavage-day-no-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-22128 Scarlett Fri, 01 Apr 2011 15:05:54 +0000 http://smallbustbigheart.com/?p=3336#comment-22128 What ever happened to being comfortable with what we've got, and not feeling pressured to chase up the latest media hype about what is attractive? I realize that many women with small chests (or average, or above average) evidently feel more comfortable in an "enhancing bra" however, that is exactly the type of insecurity the garment business seeks to enhance and exploit. Why do the sizes for "padded" and "minimizing" bras overlap? Perhaps because lingerie companies can't afford to miss out on anyone's lingering insecurity, so they make sure to encompass them all? I would prefer to see 'flat-chested' women celebrate the beauty of their natural endowment, rather than striving to fit into a figurative and literal mold of what attractiveness is "supposed to be." If every woman deserves 'feel good' lingerie, why are you promoting lingerie engineered to "correct" so-called "flaws"? How does that make a woman feel better about her anatomy? What about wearing figure-altering clothing is meant to make a woman feel good? I'm saddened and disappointed to see that this site, which I have enjoyed and respected, is spreading the insidious propaganda of "small breasts are undesirable." What ever happened to being comfortable with what we’ve got, and not feeling pressured to chase up the latest media hype about what is attractive? I realize that many women with small chests (or average, or above average) evidently feel more comfortable in an “enhancing bra” however, that is exactly the type of insecurity the garment business seeks to enhance and exploit. Why do the sizes for “padded” and “minimizing” bras overlap? Perhaps because lingerie companies can’t afford to miss out on anyone’s lingering insecurity, so they make sure to encompass them all?
I would prefer to see ‘flat-chested’ women celebrate the beauty of their natural endowment, rather than striving to fit into a figurative and literal mold of what attractiveness is “supposed to be.” If every woman deserves ‘feel good’ lingerie, why are you promoting lingerie engineered to “correct” so-called “flaws”? How does that make a woman feel better about her anatomy? What about wearing figure-altering clothing is meant to make a woman feel good? I’m saddened and disappointed to see that this site, which I have enjoyed and respected, is spreading the insidious propaganda of “small breasts are undesirable.”

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